Meet Lacey (not her real name) who is a 12-year-old young lady. Lacey is in need of a new home. She was adopted from Europe at 7 years of age. She lives with her biological half-sister and her adoptive mom.
Lacey is not doing well in her home. She blames her mother for a lot of her problems. She is reenacting the relationship she had with her biological mother. She is desperate for love, but she wants a new mother/mentor that is not her current mother.
She needs one-to-one attention. She is fixated on electronics and sexted a boy in her class. Right now, her mother does not let her have a phone. She struggles with telling the truth. She has borrowed things from school. She does not comprehend boundaries and needs to understand accountability.
She has been diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), PTSD, ADHD, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD).
Lacey weighs 88 pounds and is 5 foot 2 inches tall. She is in good health. She is tall and thin. She is happy, outgoing and friendly. She is talkative and kind. She never gives up. She tries to connect with people. She loves to be part of a team.
Lacey is current on her immunizations. She has no known allergies. She is scheduled for a well-child checkup August 20, 2021. She is in good health. She has been diagnosed with ADHD, PTSD, ODD and RAD in 2017. She currently takes an anti-depressant and a mood stabilizer medication.
Lacey has had a psych evaluation. She has been diagnosed with ADHD, PTSD, ODD and RAD. She was diagnosed with a learning disability in 2019. This diagnosis helped her receive an IEP for math and writing. (Her mother states she is not learning disabled, but needed the services.) Lacey loves school and even attended all the Zoom classes this last year. Her teachers love her.
Lacey loves sports. She plays soccer, basketball, volleyball, and swimming. She loves playing on teams She likes music, art, drawing and movies of all types. Loves dancing and singing with her friends. She enjoys watching cooking shows. She has a love of nature. She likes animals of all kinds, especially dogs.
Lacey has sexualized behaviors and is boy crazy. One day when her mother was not at home, Lacey invited a 17-year-old boy over and had sex with him. She said it was consensual (they were both under age), so Mom was investigated for leaving her daughter home alone. The case is now closed. Her mother says Lacey now understands that she should wait until she’s an adult to engage in sexual activities.
Lacey acts more mature than a 12-year-old. She needs a mentor to help her navigate life. Lacey understands what she did is not right, but is focused on the opposite sex. One positive thing is that she has not exposed herself to anyone.
The social worker believes that if she is placed in a family willing to work with Lacey on her sexualized issues, she could do well. The social worker for the KidTeen Adoption program, believes that Lacey could do well in either a 2-parent or a single parent family.
New Family Requirements:
The family prefers a traditional 2-parent heterosexual couple or a single mother. The family has a preference that Lacey would be an only child or the youngest child in the family.
The family prefers a Catholic family as Lacey was baptized, but this is not a requirement. The family has no preferences as to location, age or employment.
The family should be very comfortable discussing sexual relationships because Lacey has had some sexualized behaviors and had a sexual relationship with a boy.
Special Note: The family is offering a $2000 grant to be paid at finalization and may be able to help with attorney fees.
She is living in a residential program. She started living there in the beginning of Sept 2021. The place is the Children’s Mansion in Tupelo MS. From her mother’s point of view, she is doing great, it is super religious, Pentecostal. She found God. She loves church. This place is not really a “therapy” based program. It is not a “higher level of care” situation either. She can see a therapist once a week but that’s it.
It does not have a rigorous academic program either. What it provides her is a super structured, super simple day to follow and it keeps her safe. Her mom gets an update every week from the school. She can send some of these over if a family wants to see them.
Her mom has a call from her every two weeks and she writes letters. She is the victim; she hasn’t done anything wrong to be there. She has told her mom she is doing great and should be coming home soon. She doesn’t lead with that in her letters and in the calls because they are all monitored but her mother knows what she is getting at.
Her mom has spoken to the therapist there once and she was excellent. Knew everything about RAD. She said Lacey demands attention and always plays the victim card but that Lacey is not at the top of the list of kids that need her when she does visit once a week so that’s good!
For more information please contact us at KidTeenadopting@wiaa.org