*Conner is 7 years old and was adopted internationally when he was 3 ½ into a family with one bio son just a few months older than him. If you are familiar with our program, you’ve heard this same story again and again. Artificially twinning an adopted child with a bio child can be a recipe for disaster, especially if the adopted child lags in any area. Conner has delays that keep him from doing the same things as his older (not adopted) brother. Severe jealousy has manifested itself through Conner’s behaviors toward both his adopted mom and brother. His family has come to the very difficult decision to find him a better fitting adoptive home where he does not feel the need to compete with a sibling, but can shine on his own. Second Chance has partnered with Conner’s family to find a traditional two parent family with no other children under age 10. This family needs to have a current homestudy (or one that can be easily updated) and access to a children’s hospital that will have the specialists Conner needs to see bi-annually. Please write to us for his ‘full profile’ if you’d like to know more about this little boy as well as our process of being preapproved for a Second Chance adoption. Please write to [email protected]
Conner’s family tells us that he loves music and dance parties—he will entertain you with dance moves and loves a good laugh! He’s fun loving child with a sunny personality. He loves nothing more than to crawl on a lap and read a colorful picture book, especially books with numbers or animals. He tried cross-country skiing for the first time this winter and with a helping hand, he loved it! He loves motorized kid cars to ride in, and enjoys scooting around seated on a skateboard. He likes to make tea in his toy kitchen, and serve people imaginary treats. Some of his favorite things include: rice, beans and noodles, soups (only scalding hot!), his Cookie Monster and Elmo puppets and his special blanket. He has a lot of imaginary conversations between his puppets which tells us he is developing a healthy imagination. Conner knows how to perform most self-care activities for himself, but sometimes gets frustrated due to weakness on his left side from Cerebral Palsy. He can dress himself as long as there are no buttons; brush his own teeth (needs a bit of help to do a proper job of it) and can take a shower on his own.
Conner has been doing really wonderful in Kindergarten. He can count to 10; can understand “take two more bites before you leave the table” but couldn’t go much higher than that; knows shapes; calls all colors ‘pink’ (the eye doctor says he’s not colorblind, but not sure if cognitive issue or what keeps him from seeing different colors). He knows the uppercase alphabet pretty well and can sing the ABC song. He also can read some sight words from little books sent home from school. Mom thinks he memorizes the story more than actually reading the words, deducing the story line from the pictures on each page. He seems to have a pretty good memory, if he can hear a story and then recall or retell it again in his own words.
This is a private adoption, so a state or foster home study might not work. A state authorized private domestic or international home study is generally required. You will need to have a current, or easily-updated home study for this adoption. Due to state laws, we are not able to place this child in CT, MA, NY or DE. If you live in OR, you may need to travel to the child’s state for finalization of the adoption. If you have never had a home study before, we cannot help you adopt this child. But we would love to share with you the process of starting a home study so you could be approved for a child in the near future. Please write to us and ask us how to get started!
Adoption is a legal process so there will be costs associated. This adoption may qualify for the IRS Adoption Tax Credits.
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*To protect the privacy of our waiting children and their families, Second Chance does not share real names for our waiting children on the Internet. It is our policy to only share a snippet of a waiting child’s details as well as the type of adoptive family we are looking for. If you fit the POSTED REQUIREMENTS, are home study ready (or can be soon!), and interested in adding this to your family, please write to us for honest, in-depth profiles on the child including medical, educational, and behavioral information and learn the full story of why this child needs a secondary adoption. Our program social worker and program director have worked together with the child’s family to carefully set the requirements for the new family. These requirements are not negotiable, so please honor the needs of the child by not asking us to bend them for you.