Milo

Description

Meet Milo! This handsome boy is 6 years old and was adopted internationally when he was four. He is currently in kindergarten at his local public school where he is an excellent student. He lives with his adoptive parents and their two biological daughters who are twelve and seven. Ever since Milo arrived in the US and met his new mom, he has rejected her. His family isn’t sure why. But, whenever she is in the room, he pretends she doesn’t exist. Two years in, they never speak or look at each other. This has created a lot of tension in the whole family, and it is not sustainable. Milo is a remarkable child who they believe deserves the chance to be in a family he wants to engage with. For this reason, they are seeking a new family for him. We ask that he be the youngest in the family by at least two years.

Milo’s dad described him as being adaptive, curious, self-controlled, smart, and optimistic. He is very friendly and loves being with other children. Milo was born with a “High Ano-rectal Malformation” (High ARM). He has undergone multiple surgeries to help correct the condition. He no longer needs to wear pull-ups, and he can do any activities any typical 6-year-old would enjoy. He does require a colon flush each evening that takes about 52 minutes to complete and that he manages with some help from his dad. He will need to perform these “flushes” for the rest of his life.

Milo loves to draw and color. He loves having coloring sheets printed for him to complete. He enjoys building things out of Legos and playing with his toy cars, monster trucks, and airplanes. His favorite toy is a dog stuffie. Milo loves playing at the park and riding his bicycle (with training wheels). He is athletic, but he doesn’t have a particular sport he is favoring at this point.

Milo’s favorite colors are blue and yellow, though they tend to change frequently. His favorite foods are cheese pizza (but not with pepperoni), rice & chicken dishes, and fruit. He could live without eating green, leafy things, although he does like broccoli! He enjoys sitting and looking at books and can read “easy readers” well. He loves ANYTHING that has to do with Paw Patrol.

This is a private adoption, so a state or foster home study might not work. A private domestic homestudy is generally required. You will need to have a current, or easily-updated homestudy for this adoption. If your homestudy is current or you’re within 3 weeks of it being completed, feel free to inquire further. Our goal is to find a new, successful adoptive family for this child. We do not facilitate long-term respite care, nor do we allow for “trial periods” or visits between you and the child before the match is made and the child changes homes. By inquiring further, you are implying you have a desire to adopt, and not to offer other creative placement solutions.

Unless otherwise noted, we require that all of the children in our program be the youngest in their new family by at least two years. We ask that you honor this requirement and not ask us to bend the rules. These children need the chance to be the “baby” of the family and to receive much needed attention so they can attach and have a healthy start in their new home. When a sibling is close in age or younger than them, this will usually foster jealousy and competition which won’t lead to a successful placement. Thank you for understanding. If you are married, we also ask that you have been married for a minimum of 2.5 years before applying to adopt through our program.

Due to state laws, we are not able to place this child in CT, MA, NY, or DE. If you live in OR, you may need to travel to the child’s state to finalize this adoption or often finalization can be done virtually. If you live in WI, please let us know, as the adoption process may be longer and a bit more expensive than what is listed in our paperwork. NJ residents will need to check with their homestudy agency or an adoption attorney to see if their homestudy will work for this type of adoption. Some states are more work than others to get permission for the placement, and attorney fees are billed accordingly. If you live in AL, we will need a pre-placement meeting between the child’s parents and a social worker after you are matched to a child. This will be an additional cost to you.

If you have never had a home study before, we cannot help you adopt this child. However, we would love to share with you the process of starting a home study so you could be approved for a child in the near future. The easiest method is to Google “home study” and the name of your city. You can then call the agencies on that list and compare prices and timelines for getting a completed domestic homestudy. Once you’re within three weeks of having a completed homestudy, you can begin pursuing a match to one of our waiting children.

Grant Information: Many grant organizations have been very generous in giving grants to families adopting Second Chance kids. They like our program, and with international adoptions going down, domestic adoptions like ours receive a lot of attention. With this profile you are receiving, you also received a list of grant organizations.  These grants end up being a reimbursement for costs you have paid because you have to pay your adoption fees upfront. Keep track of all your receipts: agency fees, attorney fees, and travel fees, etc.. If you are approved (many, many families are), they will send the grant award to us, probably after you have the child home. We will ask you for your receipts, then we will send the funds to you.

If you are a U.S. citizen living overseas, we may be able to work with you depending on a few details. Please let us know your situation.

Adoption is a legal process so there will be costs associated. This adoption may qualify for the IRS Adoption Tax Credit.

Contact us at secondchanceinfo@wiaa.org.

*To protect the privacy of our waiting children and their families, Second Chance does not share real names for our waiting children on the Internet. It is our policy to only share a snippet of a waiting child’s details as well as the type of adoptive family we are looking for. If you fit the POSTED REQUIREMENTS, are home study ready (or can be soon!), and interested in adding this child to your family, please write to us for an honest, in-depth profile on the child including medical, educational, and behavioral information and learn the full story of why this child needs a secondary adoption. Our program social worker and program director have worked together with the child’s family to carefully set the requirements for the new family. These requirements are not negotiable, so please honor the needs of this child by not asking us to bend them for you.