Lindsey

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Meet Lindsey!

She is 8 years old and was adopted internationally when she was a toddler. She is in the 2^nd grade at her local public school. Lindsey lives with her adoptive parents and their almost 10-year-old son. Lindsey was diagnosed with Giant Congenial Hairy Nevus, which is why you see so many beauty marks on her. This does not affect her life expectancy, nor does it affect her day-to-day life. She also suffers from a growth hormone deficiency which causes her petite stature. Since coming to her new home, she has largely rejected her mom’s efforts to attach to her. She is closer with her father but is very disinterested in having a relationship with mom. She has seemed like a shell of a girl during her time with them. She yearns for one-on-one attention, which she isn’t able to receive. Her brother also has some special needs, and her parents feel like they are failing to provide Lindsey with what she needs to thrive. For this reason, they are hoping to find a new family for her where she can either be an only child or where the parents have the energy and enthusiasm to invest into Lindsey so she can truly feel loved and cared for.

Lindsey LOVES music. She likes all types of music, but country music has won her soul. She is happy to have music playing whenever she’s home. Music has been a constant in her life since her years in the orphanage. Lindsey also enjoys playing outside. She likes to slide, swing, rider her scooter and bike, and draw with sidewalk chalk. She has a fear of water, so she hasn’t learned to swim.

Lindsey can be a great helper. At school, her teacher says that whenever another student needs help, Lindsey is quick to volunteer. She enjoys school and is quite bright. She has talked in the past about either being a doctor, nurse, or veterinarian, but currently she says she really wants to be a stay-at-home mom one day.

Lindsey’s favorite colors are pink and purple. She hasn’t met a food she doesn’t like and isn’t picky at all. She loves apples, and she use to like eating ghost peppers, but now she’s decided that maybe spicy food isn’t her favorite after all. She enjoys reading, coloring, and doing directed draws. Lindsey is pretty well organized and prefers order and consistency to chaos.

This is a private adoption, so a state or foster home study might not work. A private domestic homestudy is generally required. You will need to have a current, or easily-updated homestudy for this adoption. If your homestudy is current or you’re within 3 weeks of it being completed, feel free to inquire further. Our goal is to find a new, successful adoptive family for this child. We do not facilitate long-term respite care, nor do we allow for “trial periods” or visits between you and the child before the match is made and the child changes homes. By inquiring further, you are implying you have a desire to adopt, and not to offer other creative placement solutions.

Unless otherwise noted, we require that all of the children in our program be the youngest in their new family by at least two years. We ask that you honor this requirement and not ask us to bend the rules. These children need the chance to be the “baby” of the family and to receive much needed attention so they can attach and have a healthy start in their new home. When a sibling is close in age or younger than them, this will usually foster jealousy and competition which won’t lead to a successful placement. Thank you for understanding. If you are married, we also ask that you have been married for a minimum of 2.5 years before applying to adopt through our program.

Due to state laws, we are not able to place this child in CT, MA, NY, or DE. If you live in OR, you may need to travel to the child’s state to finalize this adoption or often finalization can be done virtually. If you live in WI, please let us know, as the adoption process may be longer and a bit more expensive than what is listed in our paperwork. NJ residents will need to check with their homestudy agency or an adoption attorney to see if their homestudy will work for this type of adoption. Some states are more work than others to get permission for the placement, and attorney fees are billed accordingly. If you live in AL, we will need a pre-placement meeting between the child’s parents and a social worker after you are matched to a child. This will be an additional cost to you.

If you have never had a home study before, we cannot help you adopt this child. However, we would love to share with you the process of starting a home study so you could be approved for a child in the near future. The easiest method is to Google “home study” and the name of your city. You can then call the agencies on that list and compare prices and timelines for getting a completed domestic homestudy. Once you’re within three weeks of having a completed homestudy, you can begin pursuing a match to one of our waiting children.

Grant Information: Many grant organizations have been very generous in giving grants to families adopting Second Chance kids. They like our program, and with international adoptions going down, domestic adoptions like ours receive a lot of attention. With this profile you are receiving, you also received a list of grant organizations.  These grants end up being a reimbursement for costs you have paid because you have to pay your adoption fees upfront. Keep track of all your receipts: agency fees, attorney fees, and travel fees, etc.. If you are approved (many, many families are), they will send the grant award to us, probably after you have the child home. We will ask you for your receipts, then we will send the funds to you.

If you are a U.S. citizen living overseas, we may be able to work with you depending on a few details. Please let us know your situation.

Adoption is a legal process so there will be costs associated. This adoption may qualify for the IRS Adoption Tax Credit.

Contact us at secondchanceinfo@wiaa.org.

*To protect the privacy of our waiting children and their families, Second Chance does not share real names for our waiting children on the Internet. It is our policy to only share a snippet of a waiting child’s details as well as the type of adoptive family we are looking for. If you fit the POSTED REQUIREMENTS, are home study ready (or can be soon!), and interested in adding this child to your family, please write to us for an honest, in-depth profile on the child including medical, educational, and behavioral information and learn the full story of why this child needs a secondary adoption. Our program social worker and program director have worked together with the child’s family to carefully set the requirements for the new family. These requirements are not negotiable, so please honor the needs of this child by not asking us to bend them for you.