Ruby – Placed

Description

*Meet Ruby!

*Ruby is 6 years old and was adopted internationally.  Ruby was a special needs adoption due to her blindness from birth.  She has very limited sight in one eye and the other one is prosthetic.  

As is common with children who come into the Second Chance program, Ruby is not attached to her adopted mom.  She has transferred much of her early trauma to her adopted mom and is making life miserable for everyone in the home because of this.  She was adopted into a home with several other children very close to her age which can be an issue too—fighting for attention causes problematic behaviors.  

We are hopeful that giving Ruby a fresh start in a different type of home will allow her to leave behind the negative coping behaviors she’s established in this home and blossom into her best self.  

Outside of the family home, others describe her as ‘sweet’, ‘an angel’, ‘a wonderful child’. Second Chance is partnering with her adopted parents to find either a 2 parent (traditional Dad and Mom) with no other children under age 10 and NO boys in the home; or single mom, with no other children, to adopt Ruby.  Ruby enjoys learning about God and memorizing scriptures for Awana, so we are hoping to find a mainstream Christian family who is able to continue to foster her relationship with God.  

Ruby may need to be the youngest in her new home for quite some time, possibly years.  If you are thinking of adding additional younger children into your home in the future, you may not be the right home for her.  Ruby is exceptionally musical (see below for video of her playing the piano) and would love to continue pursuing music lessons. Ruby also has MSPI (milk soy protein intolerance) and requires a special diet free of those things.  If you fit what we’re looking for and are interested in learning more about Ruby, please write to us and request her full profile.  We have a lot of great information to share with you about Ruby and our program.  Please write to secondchanceinfo@wiaa.org .

Ruby is gifted at playing piano! She has a natural ear for music and seems to instinctively know the rhythm of a song. Though she is blind, she doesn’t need to read music as she has an incredible memory! She does require your hand over her hand instruction until she has the song memorized. She took Suzuki Method lessons for 1/2 a year (as long as her behavior would allow mom to get her out the house).  She has also been receptive to instructions from adopted mom for learning new songs. She particularly likes Christmas songs, Frere Jacques, and Row, Row, Row Your Boat- which requires her hands to cross and uncross mid-song – an advanced skill for such a new learner.  She would do well in a musical family!  Memorization comes easily to her and she has easily memorized verses and poetry.  

Her family tells us that Ruby is a fast learner.  She appears to be incredibly intelligent, asking well thought out questions and being generally curious of the world and how things work.

Though Ruby is blind, she is a really good hiker. She has been taught to hike with one hand on someone’s arm acting as a guide or on a buddy dog harness and the other on a hiking pole. In semi-smooth sections she can hike without a guide, with 1-2 hiking poles or her cane. On paved surfaces she doesn’t even need her cane as her limited sight is enough to keep her on the path. She enjoys hearing the sounds in nature and touching water when she hears it flowing near the trail.

Ruby does not pity herself for her lack of sight- and for a long time she assumed that everyone was just as blind as she was. She has learned more recently that she can hear better than just about anyone else. She memorizes familiar building and outdoor areas’ layouts and can navigate easily without help using her limited sight and her exceptional memory!

Ruby loves magnet building toys! She can play or color contently with them for hours while listening to audio books—she has an adaptive audio player given to her for free by the Library of Congress (every state has this available to anyone with sight problems).  She likes all kinds of books, Winnie the Pooh, Frog and Toad, Dr. Seuss and they are available for free with the audio player.  Three free braille books are also available through www.seedlings.org every year.

Her favorite food is vegan mac and cheese (soy and dairy free), and she loves homemade soup and banana bread. Interestingly, she doesn’t like Indian foods; her parents assume that she has trauma stored with the smell and flavor.  She also doesn’t like eggs or sandwiches very much.  Her favorite color is ever changing; it’s orange at the moment!

Click here for video of Ruby: https://youtube.com/shorts/EMFqOJ5SXWQ?feature=share

This is a private adoption, so a state or foster home study might not work. A state authorized private domestic or international home study is generally required. You will need to have a current, or easily-updated home study for this adoption.

Due to state laws, we are not able to place this child in CT, MA, OR, NY, or DE. If you live in WI, please let us know, as the adoption process may be longer and a bit more expensive than what is listed in our paperwork.  Please note that this child cannot be placed into OR, although some of our children can. If you have never had a home study before, we cannot help you adopt this child. But we would love to share with you the process of starting a home study so you could be approved for a child in the near future. Please write to us and ask us how to get started! If you are a U.S. citizen living overseas, we may be able to work with you depending on a few details.

Adoption is a legal process so there will be costs associated. This adoption may qualify for the IRS Adoption Tax Credit.

Contact us at secondchanceinfo@wiaa.org

*To protect the privacy of our waiting children and their families, Second Chance does not share real names for our waiting children on the Internet. It is our policy to only share a snippet of a waiting child’s details as well as the type of adoptive family we are looking for. If you fit the POSTED REQUIREMENTS, are home study ready (or can be soon!), and interested in adding this child to your family, please write to us for an honest, in-depth profile on the child including medical, educational, and behavioral information and learn the full story of why this child needs a secondary adoption. Our program social worker and program director have worked together with the child’s family to carefully set the requirements for the new family. These requirements are not negotiable, so please honor the needs of this child by not asking us to bend them for you.